Don’t Ask Unless You Really Want to Know

How many times when someone asks you how you are, have you wanted to really tell them the God awful true answer…”I’m really crappy,” or “I’m a hot mess.” but you don’t know if they’re ready to hear what life is really feeling like at that moment?

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How to Talk to a Man

I have spent a lifetime learning a very important lesson about needing to “talk” and ended relationships that may have been viable because of what I didn’t understand about men. You can talk with a man you care about, but here’s what you need to know…

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Love Conquers All…and Other Fortune Cookie Wisdom?

That tiny piece of paper has been on my bedside table for two weeks and for some reason I can’t throw it away. A few weeks ago while sitting in a Chinese restaurant alone and reliving an argument with a man I had been dating for awhile, I closed my eyes and cracked open the fortune cookie…”Love conquers all”, it said. Without thinking, the words poured out…”God, I so wish that were true.”

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How do we Know?

  A friend of mine texted me this morning saying she had been in a gerbil wheel all night long wondering if a man she recently met was going to be able to “go the distance”. Viagra takes care of some version of  that, but she was talking about her desire for a long term…

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A Clean Slate

How much information about our past do we need to share when we meet someone?   Recently a friend introduced me to a really wonderful man. Now this in and of itself is a novel thing…to be introduced to someone instead of swimming in the pool of online dating. After the introduction, the two of…

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