What “Rules of Dating” Really Matter?

Remember going to the junior high dance with your girlfriends and waiting for one of those cute, sweet guys to cross the gym’s Arabian Desert with the confidence of the Fonz? Pretty much didn’t happen, right? Well, why are we still believing that is their job when it was too scary for them way back then?

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Love is All Around Us

Silly me…I watched “Four Weddings and a Funeral” way too close to Valentine’s Day. By the end of it, I was heavily identified with the feelings at the funeral.

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Why Are the Boomers Ageist When Looking for Love?

If when you look at that photo and know it doesn’t match their age, smile and remember the person who shows up in the coffee shop is the same man or woman in the picture, perhaps with a few more years of wisdom and life experience that might be just what you want in a perfect partner.

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There is No Painless Ending

When did women inherit the enormous responsibility for what happens in relationships with men? Does estrogen give them the superpower to be able to simultaneously be vulnerable, soft and present while being hyper-vigilant so as not to hurt a man?

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How Can We Get Past the Photos?

Do you ever wonder what people are thinking when they post a primary photo of themselves from ten years ago or a head shot taken when madras was still in fashion? To be honest, it’s to get the seeker past the photo hoping that by reading the profile, they will be seen in a more complete way for who they truly are.

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Why Are the Boomers Ageist?

Boomers are great! We are courageous innovators, fiercely independent, passionate thinkers and doers who, by the way, are never going to die. Not only are we never leaving this world until we make it perfect, our youthful spirit is determined not ever to sit down in a rocking chair. That’s why we refuse to see ourselves as ageing in any way shape or form.

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Are We Using Each Other?

Dating is one big experiment. It’s like being ordered at a Deli, sniffed like a dog, sized up like a candidate for a job. It’s all about knowing your intention that will determine if you are experimenting or using someone.

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The Gift of Receiving

It was the best Christmas gift ever as I look back through the retrospectroscope. For the first time I could ever remember, I was down for the count, unable to pull off my Martha Stewart Christmas. In fact, I couldn’t even carry my baby upstairs by myself. I had to ask for help.

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The Waiting Game

OK, let’s allow a day or so to fulfill that ridiculous rule of dating…”not so fast, keep them waiting, don’t appear needy or too interested”. Who in the hell invented these rules???

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Just Show Up!

I have to go shopping! Every outfit I have just won’t do it. The shoes are crammed inside my closet but not one of them will make me feel like I want to feel when I meet him. So, off we go with our credit card screaming, “You deserve it.”

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