I’ve not met one person for whom this year has not been one of real struggle…myself included. Health issues, housing issues, loss of someone we loved, have made it hard to get up in the morning. Some folks I haven’t met but keep in my heart are those who lost their homes to fires in my home state of California, and many who still lack power and sleep 30 to a home after hurricanes destroyed their homes on the island territories. So my friends, the only comfort we might find is in knowing we are not alone, that the good was, much like Dorothy’s Kansas…right there alongside the struggles.
I haven’t posted lately because I wanted to find words to uplift and inspire you. Then, as always, the words came to lift my heart and give rest to my soul. May they carry you too. Single or married, happily alone or thinking about opening your heart yet again to loving someone, these words of wisdom are a foundation for a new year filled with hope and possibilities.
After a while you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand
And chaining a soul.
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t mean security.
And you begin to learn
That kisses aren’t compromises
And presents aren’t promises.
And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes ahead
With the grace of a woman or a man
Not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build all your loads on today
Because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans
And futures have a way of falling down in midflight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if
you ask too much.
So you plant your own garden
And decorate your own soul
Instead of waiting for someone to buy you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
That you really are strong
And you really do have worth.
And you learn. And you learn.
With every failure you learn.
Happy New Year to You!
Are you thinking about finding love again but afraid of getting hurt or disappointed? Maybe you aren’t sure there’s anyone out there for you, but you’re tired of watching sunsets alone. I’d be happy to talk with you about how to find that special someone with whom to share this next amazing chapter of your life in the new year ahead.
Give me a call at 510-817-4242 or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Donna Bailey, MS
Coach, Speaker, Writer and Expert in Dating and Relationships for Grown-ups
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