Last night was probably my favorite event of the year. My sweet son says, “It’s your Super Bowl!” He’s right.
As my body gets older…notice I did NOT say, I get older… I realize that it’s a bit dangerous this big glitzy event. No, it’s not that I down two bottles of champagne or eat chili cheese fries. I’d be dead already if I were that loose a woman. It’s that I turn on the TV the moment that long red carpet is viewable. Sometimes, pathetically, that starts even before a Gucci gown even graces it.
It all began when I was very very young. My older sister and I would board the city bus in Raleigh packing some penny candy and head downtown for the movie theater. We didn’t even have to pay! Back in the day, you could see a double feature on Saturday mornings by simply eating ice cream or drinking a Coca Cola. A few bottle caps, or lids off those “Dixie cups” got kids in the door. And who minded downing some ice cream to earn your way into a movie?!
There they were. Fred and Ginger, Audrey, Gregory Peck and that pool full of perfect swimmers on Esther Williams weekends. The world was perfect.
Seems life at home wasn’t perfect. It was sadly very imperfect. Two parents doing their best, for sure. But their best included more alcohol than Robert Mitchum ever drank and depression that was so dark for us, that the way that we survived, my sister and I, was duck and cover at the movies. It’s where we learned about love.
Can you imagine the dichotomy in my life? Love looked for all the world like Audrey Hepburn and Doris Day said it did. And, my sweet little soul also had its own recording device operating 24/7 that was leaving messages for years about love as struggle, pain, care-taking and believing that if I were good enough, maybe someone would love me too.
Our “love imprint” is the most powerful force in our lives when we are looking for love, or in a relationship with someone over time. It’s not obvious to us, but unless we come to understand it, bring it out into the light, we will continue to play it out in our intimate relationships…or worse, be unable to find someone who is healthy and loving.
You and I are so worth doing whatever it takes to find all the roadblocks to a loving relationship. And, you have to be willing to take the journey with someone to hold your hand while you uncover the error messages that nobody meant to give you, but did. It’s time to love Audrey for who she was while at the same time, putting your feet on the ground and taking off the glass slipper so that you will find a real live person to love.
If you’re tired of watching sunsets alone, and ready to do whatever it takes to find someone to share this amazing chapter of your life, I’m here to help you.
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Donna Bailey, MS
Donna’s Big Red Chair
Coaching, Speaking, Writing and Expert”ing” in Dating and Relationships for Grown-ups