Make It a “Yes” Next Time



I’m copping to it…I said “Yes!” just now when the barista asked , “Would you like whipped cream on your mocha?” What the hell. If you’re gonna drink a chocolate bar, what’s a little whipped on it? And yet, how many of us won’t even allow ourselves to have that mocha in the first place, much less anything but fat-free goat’s milk in our decaf.


I have been made aware by some Christmas elf or holiday brainworm how often simply by saying “No” I have limited my life and the joy that’s in it every single day. It happens every time I make declarations made of mental cement like “I can’t write in a coffee shop”. Or see if this one sounds familiar…” I can’t be in a relationship unless_______”, and the “unlesses” are things like, “he wants to live together” or “she spends less time with her girlfriends” or “unless I just meet him/her naturally”.


So, today here I am!  Peet’s Coffee, which by the way in this part of the world probably contains at any one time more people meeting for the first time over coffee than anywhere in Northern California. It’s online dating Nirvana. What better place could there be to write about love, except for my craziness in thinking I can only write where it’s quiet. 


Somehow I was blessed by whatever force brought me to this place, both Peet’s and this awareness of how much happier I’ve been since I started saying “Yes” to most everything. It’s already paying big time benefits!


So, here’s to saying “yes” this year, beginning NOW. Every time you hear yourself thinking “No”, stop yourself. Someone calls to say, “Want to have a glass of wine tonight?” You think…”I’m too tired”. STOP! Go anyway. See what happens. And as for finding love in the coming year, fling those doors wide open and quick! Don’t limit yourself to anything. Try something and maybe even someone you might not have been open to before. Imagine there are thousands of fabulous people out there who will make your heart sing, and at times, make you want to kill them! There ARE thousands of people out there wanting just what you want, or close enough to it. You might spend some time asking where you’d like to be next year during this holiday season or if you’d like to be a bit more naughty than nice this coming year. Santa brings gifts to everyone, you know.


Make saying “YES “to life your only New Year’s resolution and you will be amazed at what can happen!

Email this post to a friend, post it on your Facebook page so that Yes becomes the word of the day!
Are you ready to find someone to share those sunsets and a fabulous bottle of wine? Sick and tired of coming home to only the kisses from your dog? This can be your year if you are ready to say “YES” to love!

Want to know more about how to find that love? Call me at 510-817-4242 or email me at to schedule a time for a Complimentary Session with me!

Donna Bailey, MS

Coach, Speaker, Writer, 

Expert, Dating and Relationships for “Grown-ups”

Donna’s Big Red Chair




  1. Pam Schaeffer on December 8, 2016 at 7:01 am

    So wise! Thank you for the concrete advice and the encouragement!

  2. Pam Schaeffer on December 8, 2016 at 7:03 am

    Great concept to take into the new year!

    • admin on December 8, 2016 at 8:10 am

      It’s really surprising how great it feels! I’d love to hear about your experiences too.

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