It really hit home today, looking at myself in the mirror way too early in the morning. Seems I have a little volcano growing under my right eye. I know my dermatologist has a better name for it and as I get older, I realize that I am getting more intimate contact from her than the lover I wish were in my life.
Some dear friends stopped by yesterday and our conversation always meanders in the most delicious ways that only people with history can seem to comfortably accept. I was telling them about the challenges people over 55 face when they are single and have the guts to stay out there in the dating frenzy. It’s not normal, you know, to be dating like this at our age! That’s why we feel like teenagers when we do it. Because God never intended us to live long enough to recycle ourselves through this craziness at this time of life. But back to the discussion…I told them that Boomers lived in deep denial about aging and the upside of it is that it keeps us vibrant. Downside…we are ageist and not even aware of it. You see, if we can’t see our own reflection in the mirror, “volcano growth” and all, then how on Earth can we accept and love those lines and wrinkles and warts and all when others our age (by the way) show up at the local coffee shop? That is, if we somehow get past a current photo of them to be there to meet us in the first place?
I am gonna start working on myself around acceptance of my own “warts and all”. Maybe I’ll start with this little skin tag that for all the world feels like I am on death’s door! If I can get a grip on my own mortality, perhaps I will open myself to finding someone who is beautiful too, warts and all.
If you are tired of watching those sunsets alone and ready to really love someone, warts and all, get off that sofa. Give me a call at 510-817-4242 to schedule a Complimentary Strategy Session and let’s get you on the road to love again!
Donna Bailey, MS
Coach, Speaker, Writer and Expert in Dating and Relationships for “Grown-ups”
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