Not everyone wants to see the pictures of your grandchildren and I get that. And, I posted this one anyway because every time I go on Facebook and see how loved he is, I realize once again the power and necessity of connection.
Almost two years ago, I watched this newborn baby gaze into his mother’s eyes, turn toward his adoring father’s voice and even recognize his Grammie who had come to welcome him into the world. Science tells us that the reason he looks at his mother is based on survival and that when that bond fails to happen, babies do not thrive.
Connection to other human beings continues throughout our lives as necessary for survival. Oftentimes work and career is the avenue to meaningful connection. Sharing our stories of day to day life with colleagues provides us a sense of belonging. But is that enough?
While some people say they are happy living alone, most want to find a partner in life. The longing for connection and belonging is powerful. When we experience the loss of someone we love, physical pain centers in our brains light up revealing that we actually do feel the pain of a broken heart. Is it any wonder then that so many of us avoid that pain by believing we don’t need or want a relationship?
Whether or not you are in a love relationship, find ways to connect deeply with others. Volunteer your time to help others, get massage regularly, get yourself to a coffee shop, find a Meetup group for singles.
It wasn’t that long ago that you looked into your mother’s eyes. Now it’s time to find your way to someone else who needs you as much as you need them.
If you are ready to find love again, I can show you the way!
Donna Bailey, MS
Donna’s Big Red Chair
Coach, Speaker, Writer, Dating and Relationships for “Grown-ups”