And Now, I Am One


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I used to think listening to people talk about their grandchildren was like watching paint dry. Even now, dodging strollers in yuppie neighborhoods in San Francisco can really irritate me. And the other night, a father came to happy hour in an upscale bar with a Snugli, pushing a hundred pound stroller and I wanted to scream!


This morning I rolled over on a piece of Cookie Monster’s face, put my feet on the floor and stepped on a couple of Inner Peas (if you don’t know what these are, I suggest you Google this right away!). I smiled as I made my way to the bathroom where Dora the Explorer bubble bath sat on the side of the tub and I could still hear the giggles and splashing that could make me forget everything else in my world. Yep, I am now one of those grandparents and to tell you the truth, I am feeling a bit Jekyll and Hyde about it myself.


At the risk of being stoned to death by members of AARP, I want to offer up my best thinking about being a grandparent and it applies to parents as well. Loving your children and grandchildren is one of the greatest gifts of being a human being. However having a life separate from them is also precious and necessary if you are to truly experience all that this amazing life has to offer. There is nothing more sad than realizing that when the kids leave home, the emptiness is more than in the nest. It is deep in your soul.


We are beautiful complex creatures with the drive to live, learn, explore and dream. Our kids and grandchildren are part of that dream for some, but not for all of us. Don’t forget yourself or those dreams if you are a parent or a grandparent and for God’s sake, claim happy hour for yourself and for me..I beg you.


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  1. Artina on October 27, 2015 at 9:42 am

    Donna, you are spot on with this commentary. I’m one who chose not to have my own children, but rather focused my “parental” energies on nieces, nephews and god children. At 36 I found myself in a new role as a (wince, cringe) … Step Parent. It took time, but I found the balance in this role and today I laugh at the realization that I may one day be a grandparent. At 50 I have come to terms with this and look forward to enjoying this role as I have all other “parental” roles in my life…with truth, honesty and a regard for balance in my life. I love all the children in my life. I also love my husband and myself and our alone time, together and separately. Without which I could not be the role model I’ve been and will become for the youth in my life. For they too must understand that they are not the center of the universe, but a loved and important component of a community that requires respect, love and peaceful solace, as they too should and will require to strike a peaceful balance to their own lives.

    • admin on October 27, 2015 at 9:54 am

      Thank you so much for that honesty and wisdom.We are better role models when we show our children that we are more than parents and that we have a full and vibrant life. And, yes the kids who are raising their children today also need to be aware that they too need to keep themselves beyond the role of parent, very much intact. So appreciate your comments.

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