The Give And Take of Relationships

This is what a happy and healthy relationship looks like….


Two people, be they friends, lovers, spouses, or co-workers adding to the “greater good” of their relationship and taking from that pool of shared joy and love just what they need. 


Some people find it difficult, if not impossible, to sustain the balance of this back-and-forth, take something out/put something in ” flow”that defines healthy relationships. Feelings of not having enough (love, money, attention) created from early childhood experiences can often result in feelings of ” scarcity”.


I have known people who have enough money to retire comfortably and even if they live to be 125, would have just the life they dreamed. Sometimes, even a steady gaze at their investment portfolio cannot touch their fear of not having enough. For them, it is nearly impossible to give to themselves or to others because fear has them by the throat.


Most people have so much love to share and yet are afraid that if they just let go, they may lose something (themselves, their money, their independence, control).  Fear keeps them from having the love they so desperately want.


We can all have healthy, happy relationships in our lives. The first step is looking at the patterns in our work, home and relationship history. What is it that we fear? What do we want in our lives that will create love, peace and the priceless feeling of trusting? How can we let go of trying to over-control our lives…and the people in our lives?


Do you want to have more love in your life, or to find work that makes you say, “I can’t believe they pay me to do this!”. Do you want  relationships that are filled with trust, love, fun and knowing that there is someone who will be there for you no matter what? Then begin today to notice what might be getting in the way. If you need someone to guide you, I am here to help you find the happiness you so deserve.



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