Every Turn in the Road Was Necessary


proposal on the beach



I am down at Miramar Beach, one of the most dramatic places you can be to be to experience the drama of the Pacific Ocean. It’s work that brought me here, but I have history that came roaring in like the Pacific tonight.

Not that many years ago, I sat in that same restaurant with a man I had known, or thought I knew. We had gone from being Rotarians to “an item”. Here we were, crashing surf within a few yards of this restaurant. We had known each other for several years, but had only moved from “Service Above Self” about six months prior.

The wine list was magnificent and we helped ourselves to several glasses of award winning Cabernet. The moon was full that night and perhaps he knew that. Me…I was focused on the moment and he was all about tying things down. In the middle of a delicious bread pudding, he pulled out a little box and as he opened it to reveal a vintage diamond ring, it was as if I was suddenly swimming in wine, with a dash of Disney. I saw him open the box, but it seemed surreal, not just because of the wine, but the fact that we had only been dating about 6 months. It felt like slow motion watching him pull that ring from the box and as he placed it on my finger, asking me to marry him.

Right there at that moment I knew the right answer, and yet, I felt compelled to say “Yes”. And the rest is history, with a lot of sharp turns and an inevitable divorce.

So, here I was tonight. Back in that same restaurant, and the same table! I was taken by surprise when instead of memories of OMG, Why in God’s Name Did I Say Yes?, it suddenly dawned on me. What would have happened if I had said “No”? So many things would have been different and I wouldn’t be where I am today. Every single decision we make takes us to this moment.

I wouldn’t trade any of my decisions along life’s path. I love where I am at this moment and every single person and yes and no I experienced brought me right to this very moment. Every turn in the road, every “mistake”…thank God for those.

So, today instead of beating up on yourself for those “mistakes”, stop and reflect on how many things you have in your life for which you are amazingly and eternally grateful. One single moment would have changed that. Celebrate life and all its twists and turns and thank everyone who was on your wonderful journey.

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