“You’ve Got to Accentuate the Positive…”

An irritated young man driving a vehicle is expressing his road rage.


We all know those days. The ones when our world feels like an episode of “Game of Thrones”.



But every day we have opportunities to see events and people in a positive rather than a negative light. 


Those of us living in more congested areas deal with traffic jams and drivers who think they are the only ones on the road. A driver honks the horn, flashes the headlights and we assume they are just CRAZY people. Maybe. But assuming that can be costly, not only to them, but to you. 


When my youngest son was 10 he got his first asthma attack. It was 2 in the morning and I was terrified. He was gasping for air, I grabbed him still in his Spider Man pajamas and frantically headed for the hospital.  Within minutes we needed  to merge onto a busy freeway where traffic was barely moving. You bet I honked my horn and flashed my lights and looked like a crazy person. The driver in front of me had no idea what life was like for me at that moment. Rolling down his window, he gave me that “hand gesture” , slowing his car down in protest. He assumed…and he was wrong.


We made it to the ER.  The driver never knew the story that was happening in the car behind him.  


On any given day, time, and place people’s lives are complicated by news of a loved one in an emergency room, a precious pet that needs to get to the vet quickly, a mother in labor, a woman leaving the doctor’s office with a cancer diagnosis, a man grieving the loss of a loved one, or someone who just lost their job. 


As you pass through the world today and find people who seem to be behaving badly “just to make your life miserable”, take a breath and give them the benefit of the doubt. Remember, you cannot know what’s happening in their lives at that moment, but you can choose to believe it is not always about you. Who wins when you open up to the positive rather than the reactive?  Everyone. You don’t add to the negative in the world that day, and perhaps that driver will get to the hospital just in time. 

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