Let’s review in case you missed yesterday’s Words From the Red Chair:
The Serenity Prayer
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference.
This is not the first time it has happened, and I am sure it won’t be the last.
This morning, I got a big old wake up call, not from my Iphone clock icon. It was from my heart… the same one that cares so deeply for people that it always thinks it is doing the right thing. Can’t blame the old ticker for that, but sometimes she loses her way and when the heart is your compass, you can really end up in the woods. Just ask my friends!
The key words in that Serenity Prayer are “the wisdom to know the difference”. Sounds easy, but it is full of big divots and deep pot holes and as you know, things can be ruined by those…knees, suspension systems and people’s lives.
Sometimes we think we are reacting and making decisions for ourselves in our own best interest, and I am a big supporter of knowing yourself and setting healthy boundaries. When, however our own happiness and peace of mind requires another person to change their behavior and lives, we can know we are swimming with the sharks. I was in the tank and didn’t even see them swimming around me…and now I do and I can do my part to make an amend to the person I “harmed” and to myself.
In all areas of our lives wisdom mostly comes by making mistakes. Sometimes friends are there to help us see that we have crossed a line. Often, for me, I just realize that without knowing it I have hooked myself to someone else’s wagon and he didn’t invite me to do that. All this, of course believing that I could help him with HIS heavy load, forgetting that I had my own load to manage…my wagon left behind a hundred miles back.
Thank God for the Serenity Prayer, for friends and books and our own inner compass. “It takes a village…” to help us remember to take care of ourselves, offer our help to others and let them do the rest.