It is easy to get lost and forget who we are and what makes us happy. It wasn’t always that way. When we were born, we knew deep in our marrow exactly who we were and we lived it because, thank GOD, we didn’t have a choice. Not very many days and months into our sweet new lives others’ words began to shape us. People are unaware of the power of words like those that shaped my early life…”tomboy”, “stubborn”, “skinny”, and “willful” were a few.
I was reminded of that “willful” word as we walked my son’s twins up the hills of his trendy San Francisco neighborhood. From the time I walked into the birthing room just a year ago and peered into that bassinet, I recognized in one of them something so familiar. She was ready to get out of there! Nature has cooperated and now, she is off and running. Her “willfulness” is who she is, and with love and support from her family, she will learn to treasure it.
Words are incredibly powerful and shape our our sense of self, but they cannot ever fundamentally change who we are. The more critical those words, the longer it may take us to shake them or redefine them to bring ourselves back to what we know in our hearts and souls to be true.
When you are faced with life transitions and asking yourself what you want and need in a relationship, love, career, artistic expression or in asking where you want to live, you must listen for the moments when you feel the joy and happiness that were part of you from birth. You need to pay attention when you are filled with that certainty again that makes you want to dance with joy. You’ll know it when you feel it, but only if you take the time, open your eyes and your heart and leave your smart phone behind!